1.  Do you feel like you know what other people want and need, yet have difficulty knowing your own wants and needs? Has this worked for you in parts of your life like your occupation or partenting but is causing problems in your relationship(s)?

 2.  Are you confused about why you have difficulty saying "No" in certain relationships or feel guilty if you put your own needs first?  Are you having trouble knowing how to trust yourself?

3.  Are you in a situation where you desperately need another person (or people) to change so you can feel okay?  As anyone ever said you were "co-dependent?"

4.  Do you have a current or past relationship with unresolved issues or conflicts that persist despite your best efforts, or inner conflict about a relationship that appears "fine" on the surface?

5.  Do you find yourself getting involved quickly and deeply in relationships, then feeling confused as to why things end suddenly or don't work out despite your best intentions?

6.  Do you find yourself not knowing why you react strongly to certain people's behaviors, when they don't seem to bother others?

7.  Do you think that the only two alternatives for handling strong emotions like anger are to hold them in/ withdraw or to explode and alienate others? 

8.  Have you lived a pattern of relating that has left you confused, dis-empowered and frustrated, especially because you are high functioning in other areas?

9.  Do you feel that you "over-give" in certain relationships, then end up feeling victimized, resentful, hurt, or unappreciated?  Do you feel you have no authority with your children or are not validated by a parent?

10.  Does it seem that the boundaries between you and important others are often not clear or respected?

11. Are you engaged in power struggles that leave you feeling as if someone has to "win?"  Does it feel that you keep having the same conflicts (or the same relationships) over and over?

12. When you are around others who are unavailable, moody, manipulative, controlling, angry, or involved with alcohol or drugs, do you have difficulty trusting your decisions, or taking care of yourself?  Do you sometimes say "No" but then end up giving in to pressure to change your mind?

13. Do you have self-doubt about your responses, feelings or actions in certain relationships and cave in to demands or covert/ overt manipulation, not knowing what happened?

14. Do you experience depression, anxiety, overeating, or engaging in other behaviors that are causing you or others concern?

15. Have you sought help with these issues in the past without success or feel it is a weakness to need help in resolving them?

If you find yourself relating to these questions,  you are not alone- nor are you to blame.  I have an extensive understanding of these feelings and the way to resolve the issues underlying them.  Women AND men have specific cultural & historical roles that lend them common behavior patterns.  If they have been raised in certain kinds of environments, these  behaviors can become adaptive patterns that come naturally, but no longer work and can be difficult to change by oneself.  If you are having trouble deciding what to do, seeking help can be the smartest decision you can make. To contact me, just go to the "Service/Contact " page.